They Don't Want To See You Win, But They Will Watch Until You Lose
The 2017 NBA Finals was the most watched Finals series since 1998, when the Michael Jordan-led Chicago Bulls defeated the Utah Jazz. Averaging 20.4 million viewers, the 2017 Finals featured two juggernaut teams--the Golden State Warriors and the Cleveland Cavaliers. Game 5 of the 2017 Finals averaged 24.5 million viewers--also the most watched game 5 since 1998. While the majority of viewers in 1998 probably watched the series because it was the last time Michael Jordan would suit up in a Chicago Bulls uniform, many watched the 2017 Finals, game 5 specifically, for one reason and one reason only--to see LeBron James lose another NBA Finals.
According to many different polls, LeBron James is the most disliked player in the NBA. He is acknowledged as being the best basketball player on the planet, known for being a family man, and regularly contributes to the community through various philanthropic efforts. Yet, his favorable attributes and notable efforts are often overshadowed by the negative attention he receives. Despite the criticism he has endured throughout his career, one thing that can be said about James is that, more often than not, he has handled himself with class and conducted himself as a true professional. By not concerning himself with the opinions of others, he is able to focus on being the best player and person he can be.
In life, you will encounter people who are not going to be happy for you regardless of what you do. When you are doing things that others are not doing, there will be criticism, jealousy and disapproval. There will be people who always seem to have something negative to say about you. People who will follow your every move, waiting for the day that you fail. Ghost followers on social media who never like your posts or congratulate you on your accomplishments but keep tabs on you just to make sure you're not flourishing more than they are. These are usually people who are unhappy with their current state and who are living unfulfilled lives. But you know what? Who cares? Continue doing what you're doing. Life is about being happy; not about trying to please everybody or limiting yourself to satisfy the insecurities of others.
As human beings, we expect others to be genuinely happy for us when great things happen in our lives. But that expectation usually leads to disappointment when we don't always receive the support we anticipated. Despite a lack of support--in general and from those you expect to be in your corner--focus solely on doing that which allows you to live your best life. Not everyone is going to be happy for you. People who are not happy for you are probably not happy for themselves either. So don't take it personal.
You do not need validation from anyone outside of yourself. Everyone has opinions. But someone else's opinion of you is honestly none of your business. Especially if it does nothing to better your life. Pay no attention to those who would rather dim your light than to see your light shine.
When you do come across people who wish the best for you and want you to succeed, cherish them. Appreciate them. Because they have no obligation to do anything. They are celebrating you and supporting you because they want to, not because they have to. Also, be supportive of the endeavors of others by whatever means you are able to. Celebrate those who celebrate you. And celebrate others when they accomplish a feat or elevate their lives. There is enough success to go around for everyone. Being happy for someone and supporting their dreams does not take anything away from you. Rather it puts you in a better position to receive the things you want in life.
When you are doing what it is that you are supposed to be doing, people are going to find a reason to dislike you and critique your every move. Sometimes just for the sole reason that they are not in your position. You can do everything you are supposed to be doing, but people will still find any reason to dislike you. Don't let someone else's disapproval stop you from doing what you need to do in order to live your best life.
Today, make the decision to become independent of the opinions of others and continue to do that which allows you to become the best version of yourself. Also, celebrate the accomplishments of others and genuinely be happy for people who are making strides towards living the lives they desire to live.